You Can Be Self-compassionate!
Self-compassionate living is a daily discipline of treating yourself well, especially mentally and emotionally. As we age, time becomes more valuable; we want to minimize negative feelings like unhappiness and relish more joy, peace, and contentment. Yet, transitory negative emotions frequently rob us of the total pleasure each moment can bring. Fortunately, developing self-compassion and practicing self-compassionate living gives you the skills to navigate life’s challenges with minimal negative feelings and maximum grace.
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Do you have an inner critic?
Do you have an inner critic? You know, that inner judge that shames you, rages at you, and generally tries (and frequently succeeds) to bring you down, leaving you exhausted and feeling beat up. If you have this internal voice, you probably want to silence it, and you’ve tried numerous methods to muzzle it. They didn’t work, did they?
You’ve lived long enough to know that, unfortunately, there are no easy answers; you’ve tried everything, and nothing worked for very long. Are you ready to work with reality, especially if it helps your days feel better?
What if you could change the equation? What if you could transform that inner torturer into an inner teacher, albeit a sometimes noisy one? What if you liked yourself so much that you realigned the ways you interact with yourself? What if you treated yourself with the same caring …and wisdom that a loving grandmother would use with you?
This may seem counterintuitive; please try it anyway.
Imagine allowing that inner negativity to yell while you treat it with kindness; that means you listen to it, hold its hand, and meet it with understanding. Now, imagine treating yourself kindly, even when you feel down, angry, embarrassed, sad, or ashamed. Imagine treating yourself well.
With the guidance of this website, you can do this because you can learn to be self-compassionate.
It may seem strange, so try to be open to a new way of thinking, especially about things that feel true to you.
Start here: self-compassion isn’t a feeling; nope, it’s a discipline of treating yourself how you want to be treated, and you can learn it! There are some tools and skills to learn, and they may feel odd. Fortunately, as you practice these tools, you’ll begin to feel better about yourself. You’ll feel better because you will be loving yourself how you want to be loved. You’ll enact these crafts! You won’t have to depend on anyone else to soothe the tender spots in your life or erase the broken areas in your emotional well-being. You will discover you are perfect and whole; you are complete as you are, and most of the time, you’ll feel that way.
Additionally, when things don’t go your way, and you sense dim flicks of lightning and the rumblings of an emotional storm brewing, you’ll be better prepared. Self-compassionate living has fortified you. You will be ready for the storms of life, no matter how uncomfortable they are. Because, by practicing self-compassion, you will empower yourself to live your authentic life fully, even in the midst of storms. That is the gift of being self-compassionate. You can learn the skills; you can practice the disciplines; you can be self-compassionate.
Practicing self-compassion culminates in navigating life’s daily situations and, significantly, your thoughts about those situations so that you minimize the negative feelings you experience and enhance the positive ones.
So, to begin, please sign up for my monthly self-compassionate living newsletter and get free access to my newest video series, Introducing Self-Compassion. The video series is yours, free for signing up for my monthly self-compassionate living newsletter. (The video series is so new that I’m not finished with it yet. I’m still in production. I will send you access to it as soon as I’m finished with it.)
Self-compassion is frequently made up of these three skills:
Awareness
The most important skill to learn is noticing your mind's activity. Your brain thinks hundreds of thoughts a minute and some of them harm you with negative feelings. Start by learning to see those automatic thoughts as data passing through your brain; the data is not you; it's just your brain's activity.
Acceptance
Once you recognize your brain data activity-your thoughts-acknowledging the thoughts allows you to see them as data your brain is processing. Accepting them and the feelings they automatically generate gives you the power to choose how you treat yourself no matter what the thoughts and feelings pressure you to do.
Letting Go
Although you accept your brain's activity, that generally doesn't make the feelings go away; thus, the last step is releasing the emotional pressures you feel. Letting go of the automatic reactions opens up possibilities hidden by the pressures; now you can navigate the situation and minimize your suffering.
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